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The Cry that birthed Nelia Gyemfi! 

Isaiah 66:8 Who hath heard such a thing? who hath seen such things? Shall the earth be made to bring forth in one day? or shall a nation be born at once? for as soon as Zion travailed, she brought forth her children. 

It’s very okay not to be okay sometimes, it does not mean you are a weakling, it only ascertains the fact that you are human, and this is life! It acceptable to let it all out, even if it means you have to wail, than bottle it all up, in the name of being strong. The person of strength is not the one who intentionally and deliberately ignores the hurt, failure, disappointment or rejection. It is that person who accepts what has gone wrong and is not defined by it but is rather redefined.

There is always success in failure, it’s up to you to be vigilant and discerning. Every disappointment is an appointment in disguise; uncover the puzzle and mystery.

On that fateful evening of 21st May, 2016…Having done everything humanly possible and fulfilling all other spiritual obligations, I was nothing short of confident that I will be the next Women’s Commissioner of my uni. The words my mum spoke to me a few minutes before the results were announced suggested to me that God says this is not for you. She said in her sweet calming voice,”Nana Nyarko, we have done everything we have to do. You campaigned as much as you could, and we have also been praying for you.  If God says No, this is not for you, let it go!”

I was like ahhh why will this woman tell me this kind of thing at this hour. I mean you said it yourself, everything had been done, what reason did God have to say no then.

But then, it so happened that God said no. No matter how hard I tried to keep it in, like the woman in labour, I had to let it out, right there on the school car park. Yes, on the school car park. I was in labour and I had to deliver. I had been pregnant with a whole lot of vision and work, and I had to birth them. I travailed and wailed like the woman carrying triplets in the maternity ward who has refused an operation so is pushing all three babies out.

People looked at me and were like Cornelia stop this please, you are embarrassing yourself. You are making your enemies happy with this attitude. But then my dear, can you stop a woman in labour from giving birth? Will you tell her she’s embarrassing herself so she should not push? I and only I knew and could understand what was happening in me, in my spirit and soul. I couldn’t keep calm. Something in me needed to be come forth, something needed to manifest. The question then is, if so, God then why did you say no?

I looked at this poster, and I didn’t see failure. I saw a woman of strength, small in physique but mighty in Christ and I said to her, that one day, just one very fateful day,  you will proudly stand in front of thousands of people, and tell of the tale behind this. And people will know, and understand, and accept, that sometimes, when God says No, it is not because you are not qualified for that. But because He’s called you for a greater purpose and vision, and He needs to rid you of every form of distraction and interruption.

Is it not amazing that the very first post on this blog was just a day after the famous cry and I say this with all happiness and pride. I started knowing but also not knowing how this will work. But I did it anyway and i have not an iota of doubt that God is in my mist.I sometimes wonder, what would I be doing now if I didn’t weep like I did? Would I be most definitely looking back with regret and looking at God like why?

That cry birthed confidence, it rekindled passion and set ablaze zeal. That cry birthed NELIA GYEMFI and brought forth the PHENOMENAL WOMEN’S BLOG  (which by the way is just the beginning of greater exploits)!!!

 Psalm 46:5 God is in the midst of her; she shall not be moved: God shall help her, and that right early.

Thank you for reading and I hope that you cry that cry that will birth the new you and the inner you. 

Love, Nelia Gyemfi. 


I met her at the ACCRA YOUTH SUMMIT. She made a statement that has stuck with me all this time. That when she intended to pursue her passion for photography, her mum was not very amused with her decision but then she said, I will not be a photographer who rides a bicycle. One very big lesson I picked into my memory is to do whatever you love to do. For then you will do it very well and attain the success and height you anticipate. In other words, do what you love, love what you do, do it with all the love you can amass and you will love the success and height you reach.

She’s been named one of the best female Photographers in Ghana. She also won the Arts, Culture and Tourism Startup of the year award at the Ghana Startup Awards 2016.

There’s no doubt that this is a woman of God, who understands what it is to find yourself in God, and walk the path He’s designed for you. When I started this work, I knew I had to get her on board.

Ladies and Gentlemen, KAFUI PRAISE!

Nelia: Hello KP, and thank you sooo much for making time for this.

KP: Thank you too for having me dear.

Nelia : Alright then, Let’s get started.In a few words, who is KP besides the awesomeness of photography abilities?

KP: Well, my actual name is Matilda Dogbatsey oh and Kafui Praise is my brand name.I am 27 years old and my parents are Mabel Adjorlolo and the late Michael Dogbatsey.

Nelia : How did Photography begin with you?

KP :Photography for me started by wanting to be a model, but then again I didn’t want to compromise to be one. l remember quite well that I was turned down by a photographer because I refused to wear a bikini for a shoot, this is not to say I have anything against those who do it but for me as a worship minister and a Sunday School Teacher then , l know people looked up to me and needed to live what I preached. So I decided to be my own model , l would go to fotostore take pictures of myself dressed how I’m comfortable with and use those pics for absolutely nothing . Pictures boasted my self confidence.  I just loved being infront of the camera and I guess the camera loved me too. So that went on for a while till I started taking pictures with my phone in 2014. The phone pics caught people’s attention and I got my first wedding booking from Norway through that so I had to quickly get a professional camera and learn my way around it quickly because I did not want to disappoint the client who soo much believed in me.

Nelia :  You sure have not disappointed any of your clients by God’s grace. On that note, what drives your purpose as a young Christian woman? 

KP : God! To live each second knowing that He’s got it all worked out is just fulfilling and awesome.

Nelia : In your opinion, what is the purpose for which the woman was created?

KP : First God created the woman from Adam to be a help meet to him. That generally tells us that  as women we’ve been created to be help meets to our generation.   We’ve been created to impact our world and anyone that comes around us.

Nelia : Capturing moments with passion in deed.  How does it feel to work in an industry dominated predominantly by men and how have you achieved and maintained the height you have reached?

KP :In the industry I find myself women have to work extra hard to rub shoulders with men. In Africa or Ghana to be specific for a woman to earn respect or to be recognised in her field of work, life or passion she will have to prove herself and let her works speak for itself. It’s a challenge but Grace is Sufficient. 

Nelia : Your works have indeed spoken for you. But then, besides God, what or who else spurs you on? 

KP: My Mentor, Pastor, Coach, Spiritual Father and friend  is Rev.Tom Bright-Davies.It was through his counsel, Prayers, guidance and teachings that I’m here today. Since 2013 to date.

Nelia : Who will you describe as a phenomenal woman?

KP: A phenomenal woman is a woman who knows and understands her worth and has discovered her purpose and is living it not forgetting her creator and aligning herself with Him. A woman who even through her hurt and brokenness will wake up, dress up and show up giving everything she does her very best.

Nelia :  Wow! Wake up, dress up and show up! We sure can’t have enough of you. Any advise to the young woman out

KP: My Advice to Young women out there, please discover or let God reveal your purpose to you and live it only then can you impact your world. And to know your purpose, you have to know God, your knowledge of Him will reveal yourself and purpose to you. You can only see yourself clearly in Him not in any human. Love yourself enough to walk away from anything that’s not adding value to your life. Don’t just Exist, LIVE!

Nelia : Don’t just Exist, LIVE!  Thank you sooo much KP for these life filled words. I hope to model for you soon. Lol.

KP: Hahaha sure. Thank you too for having me.

You may follow her on the following social media accounts to get more of her amazing works. 

-Kafui Praise Photography on Facebook


-Kafui Praise Photography


Love, Nelia Gyemfi. 




Micaela Opoku -Mensah is a lovely young intelligent Christian Ghanaian lady based in the UK.  She studied Politics and International Relations, a field dominated predominantly by men at the Oxford Brookes University. She has  currently gained admission to the University of Edinburgh to read Msc Africa and International Development. She’s a strong Pan-Africanist, loves food like myself oh and she enjoys cooking the food though. I could write a whole month’s post on this phenomenal young enthusiastic lady but I will leave her to do the talking now.

Ladies (and the gentlemen who have found their way here) meet Micaela!

Me: Hiii Micaela. Hope you are good and your day has been splendid.

Mic: Hello Nelia. My day has been been good. A few grocery shopping here and there. Trust yours was good too.

Me: oh yes it was. So tell us dear, who is Micaela?

Mic: Wow! That’s a pretty good one. Well I’m still figuring myself out…I keep learning about me almost every step of the way but that notwithstanding Micaela is a strong independent black woman,  very friendly and the outgoing type but also shy at the same time.

Me: Outgoing and shy? How does that play out Miss independent?

Mic: Hahaha well yuh. I’m more like the conversation starter and I hate awkward silent moments so I will rather keep my calm than to start something awkward. 

Me: Okay. Cool. Where do you see yourself in the next 5 years?

Mic: Well I intend to go back to Australia  and to other countries, do a little more work with international NGO’S focusing on African and International Development and make documentaries about African Politics at some point in time when I’m back home.

Me: Very insightful. To you Micaela, what is the point of womanhood?

Mic: Hmmmph! Women are the main focal point of society.  I say this without intending any disrespect whatsoever. But there are so much that we do and can do and the beauty of it is that when we put our minds to it, it flourishes and blossoms like the daffodil flower in spring. 

Me: Like the daffodil flower. Having said that, women, and I will say African women are somewhat scared of success and pursing very big ambitions. We settle for the very obvious and this is a big issue because we underutilise our potentials to suit what society deems fit. Why do you think there’s this problem and how do we address it?

Mic: Nelia you’ve mentioned the very core of the problem already. SOCIETY. The main drawback is because of what society says we can and cannot do simply because of our gender. I agree, gender makes a lot of difference,  especially biologically,  but hey, it doesn’t in anyway downplay the abilities and capacities of the woman.  I mean it’s not breaking news that this world is regarded patriarchal. In my own personal experience reading Politics and International Relations, being one of the very few females to take up that course, had to endure a lot of distasteful and unpleasant remarks from male coursemates just because why will a woman want to be a Politician?                      If we will just have an open mind about what the woman can and cannot do, should and should not do, I think this world will be a better place for us all. Let’s be mindful of what we tell our girls, what we feed their minds with.

Me: Ever wished you were born a man?

Mic : Hahaha well yes. Sometimes what is expected of you as  woman just makes you go like oh my why am I a woman again? Lol but having said that I am proud I am a Woman, and a Phenomenal woman at that.

Me: Haha a phenomenal woman she says. Well then tell us, in your opinion who is a phenomenal woman?

Mic : oh that’s easy. Me. Lol just kidding.  A phenomenal woman, mmm there’s a lot in there, but she’s  a woman who knows who she is and is proud to be what she is no matter how meagre society makes it appear to be. The Phenomenal Woman is definitely extraordinary.  Doesn’t do what society will anticipate. 

Me: Finally Micaela,  if you had the opportunity to just change one perception about  being a woman, what would it be?

Mic: oh that the woman cannot be angry or mad or pissed. Any time a woman is frustrated or down or sad oh it’s that time of the month. Okay so how about the teenagers and adolescents who are not on thier periods yet? What makes them sad or angry? That perception and stereotype really bothers me. Anything could affect a woman’s mood. Not just her periods!

Me: hahahah that was a funny truth right there. Well thank you so much Micaela. We can’t wait to have more of you.

Mic: Thank you Nelia. I’m very pleased to have done this too.

I enjoyed every bit of this conversation and I learned a lot as well. I know you did too. Well guess what, Micaela and myself will be collaborating to bring you the very last part of #the power of Influence. I know it’s going to be great. I can’t wait. 

Well before I take leave of you finally this week, please do find time and read the article in the link below👇. 


Wear your crown this week, like the Phenomenal Woman you are.

Love, Nelia.