The folly of self love is basically refusing to grow, learn, inspire and change. The world will tell you that if people leave your life, let them go! They are the problem, not you. Some will also say they didn\u2019t deserve to be a part of my life, good riddance to bad rubbish. Worse off, is those who say \u201cI am me, deal with who I am or walk away\u201d.<\/strong> <\/em> The roots are the \u201crealest\u201d people there is. If you have just a few of them in your life, keep them. Because even when your life falls apart, they\u2019ve got nowhere going. They are not fair-weather friends like the branches, neither are they shady friends like the leaves.<\/p>\n The second part of the coin is if no one wants to be a part of your life, you\u2019re the problem. Be it as it may, the leaves, branches and roots come together to form a tree. A tree without roots cannot have branches and consequently leaves. A tree without leaves is deemed to be a dead tree. I guess all I am saying is, regardless of who they are and what part they play in your life, you need one or two people around. If no one, not even \u201cleaves\u201d want to be in your life, my dear, you\u2019re the problem. The folly of self love is for those who feel they\u2019re it all. People who always blame others when their friendship or relationship doesn\u2019t work. It takes two to tango.<\/p>\n The basis of the folly of self love is selfishness. The \u201cme, myself and I\u201d. The I am perfect clause. The no need to change who I am for anyone. From where I sit, I have identified three items and misconceptions about self love which results in folly.<\/p>\n \u2022 I CAN\u2019T AND WON\u2019T CHANGE; THIS IS WHO I AM: It is indeed true, that God intentionally and deliberately made you who you are. You are unique indeed. But, when you don\u2019t accept that as human, you\u2019re not flawless, and as such you must make the conscious effort to be the better and original you that you are then there\u2019s trouble.<\/p>\n \u2022 IF THEY LOVE ME, THEY\u2019LL TAKE ME AS I AM: This is the most pathetic lie you could ever tell yourself. Whatever improvement, growth and change you go through its for yourself first, before society. No one has to deal with a piece of work. No one loves a liability.<\/p>\n \u2022 THEY DON\u2019T DESERVE ME: If you\u2019ve ever said this to yourself, I really hope you sat to think about it well. As I mentioned earlier on, you don\u2019t need to keep everyone around you. The bitter truth is there\u2019s always some better deserving than you. No matter who you are, there\u2019s someone, somewhere, this minute, better than you in every sense of the word. All am saying is be wise enough to accept it when something is your fault. It\u2019s difficult I know. Shifting blame always seems like the pleasurable route out, but until when will u keep deceiving yourself, that no one deserves you?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" The Folly of Self Love The folly of self love is basically refusing to grow,…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":1718,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[10],"tags":[11],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/rubiesworth.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/photo-1579591040860-5ff626017cfa-scaled.jpeg","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/rubiesworth.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1075"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/rubiesworth.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/rubiesworth.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rubiesworth.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rubiesworth.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1075"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/rubiesworth.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1075\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1720,"href":"https:\/\/rubiesworth.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1075\/revisions\/1720"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rubiesworth.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1718"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/rubiesworth.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1075"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rubiesworth.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1075"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rubiesworth.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1075"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nThere are two sides to this coin. Truth being told, not everyone has to be a part of your life, which is the first side of this coin. Your life is like a tree. There are the roots, the branches, and the leaves. The leaves in your life are the very temporary people. Those people are not meant to be stuck with you forever. Usually these are the persons who teach you a few lessons about life, relationship and friendship. Mind you, a tree can have millions of leaves, but they\u2019re still leaves. They\u2019re there to take from the tree, and give shade to the tree, thus block your shine.
\nThe branches, are more cunning than the leaves. The branches appear to give some form and stamina to the tree and leaves. It has more direct contact to the tree. However, when a mighty wind blows, or a storm hits the tree, these branches fall off. So will the people who are branches in your life. They give you temporary support and form. It feels as though they\u2019re unimaginably connected to you in all facets of your life; but hold on. When life\u2019s pressures hit you, and the storms of life come at you, they fall off and leave, and all you have left are the roots! THE ROOTS, not visible through the humus filled soiled, but are ever present. Akans have a proverb, that even a stump of tree has hope of growing into a mighty tree again one day, because of the presence of the roots.<\/p>\n
\nI believe one thing in life, that people are drawn to people of their kind. I beg your pardon, even insane people on the streets identify and roll with one another. No matter who you are, there are people you should be able to identify yourself with.<\/p>\n