BEING A MAN.
There’s a saying that being a man is not a day’s job. Actually, the word ‘Being’ is the present continuous tense of the word ‘be’. It is present continuous because it is a process that never ends. Being a man is not a day’s job because it’s not easy. Being a man goes beyond muscles, intellect, wealth and most importantly, sexuality and gender.
On the six day of creation, when God formed man from the dust and breathed into him the breath of life which made man a living being, there was one thing he gave man.
It wasn’t a dream, an ambition, a gift, a treasure or even riches. God didn’t even give man a woman neither was it even authority and dominance.
And the Lord God took the man, and put him into the garden of Eden to dress and to keep it.
The first thing God ever gave man was RESPONSIBILITY. Most times, it has been construed that the first thing that was given to man was authority and dominion but no, it was responsibility. After God created man, he positioned man not in Heaven, but in a Garden, to dress and keep it. The significance of the positioning in the garden is this; a garden is not that mere piece of land lying at your backyard. A garden is a portion of land which is carefully and intentionally cared for and attended to.
If there’s a piece of land lying some where on your compound without any structure on it but a few flowers and weeds, it’s not a garden because you haven’t kept it and dressed it to be a garden.
And this is the responsibility man was given, even before the woman was created (we’ll discuss this next week).
Seems to me like a pretty simple word but pretty much difficult to explain or define. Responsibility is the compulsory state of having a duty or being accountable or to blame for something. That stands to reason that if you relent on your responsibility, and there are repercussions, you are to be held accountable.
This takes me back to the garden of Eden, when man and woman ate of the tree they were forbidden to eat of.
Genesis 2:16-17 And the LORD God commanded the man, saying, Of every tree of the garden thou mayest freely eat:
But of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, thou shalt not eat of it: for in the day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die.
Mind you, the woman hadn’t been formed yet when this instruction was given. It was the responsibility of man to ensure they didn’t relent on the instruction of God and as such, God being all knowing would have known that it was the woman who was deceived by the serpent and subsequently caused Adam to relent on his responsibility. However, when God came back to fellowship with Man and Woman, He called out to the man first and said what have you done.
Genesis 3:9 And the LORD God called unto Adam, and said unto him, Where art thou?
We all know what transpired thereafter.
All this goes to throw more light on what a responsibility is. God could have exempted Man from the punishment but for the fact that he was responsible for the garden and all that was therein, including ensuring that they didn’t relent on God’s instruction.
And this is why being a man, especially in today’s world is not easy. Men today chase everything else but responsibilities. A man wants to be king of his home but without responsibility. A man wants to have dominion and assert his authority but without responsibility. Men chase dreams and ambitions and shun responsibilities.
It is indeed true, that God gave man dominion over the world, but it wasn’t so until the woman was created. Watch this and follow carefully;
Genesis 1:27-28 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.
And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.
So God blessed them (male and female) and asked them to subdue the earth. However, as it is common knowledge, God created man (male ) before woman (female) and God put man (male) in the garden of Eden and asked him to dress and keep it. Let me say at this point, that it was the responsibility of man “first” to dress and keep the garden (home) but not “only” his responsibility, thus God made him a help-meet (we’ll throw more light on this next week).
The dominion over the earth came only after the woman had been created.
David was anointed king but he went back to the field to attend to his responsibility!
Most women are embittered. Most feminists are fighting for equality of what they don’t even know, the responsibility of being a man.
In today’s world are two kinds of men.
1. Those who do not know they have a responsibility or do not acknowledge that there’s a responsibility hanging around their broad shoulders or those who are very much aware of the existence of this responsibility, but just fail or ignore to honour it. Either ways, they both have the mentality that the woman was made to help me so if I don’t do the needful, the woman will do it, that woman could be a mother, a partner or a sister.
2. Those who actually dress and keep their garden: inasmuch as there are a few bad nuts, it would only be unfair to ignore the men who actually tend to their gardens, keep it and dress it. These kind of men acknowledge that before anything else is responsibility and they execute it without a shred of complaint. Actually, they find fulfillment in it and pride themselves in the fact that they are indeed, responsible men.
Most married women, divorced women, and single mothers are embittered against some men because of their neglect or ignorance of their responsibilities. Indeed there are other factors that cause broken homes but the neglect of responsibility is a part. I’ve seen some men, who think all they were made to offer or bring to the table is seed to produce children and assert authority and dominance. Some men will at the least chance remind women that they are to submit to them. And rightly so, but if they spent half the time they spend in reminding women of their submission into ensuring they’re responsible, they would be a step closer to being actual men, not just by gender.
Before a man decides to assert their authority and dominion, ask yourself if you’ve done the first thing God gave you. Before you yearn to be treated like king David, ask yourself if you attend to your flock on the field.
Don’t wake up every morning chasing after dreams and ambitions while ignoring your responsibilities.
Indeed, being a man is not a day’s job, but it’s your choice to continually work at being a man day after day or to simply be a male?.
And to the men who actually dress and keep their gardens, we pray and hope for more of your kind. But in the meantime, keep tending to your garden, your help-meet is on their way…
Next week, we’ll delve into why God made woman, especially as a helpmeet.