Imagine being at loggerheads with someone who has no idea that they are being fought or that they are in a banter? Or better still imagine exchanging words with someone who just smiles at passes by? See how stupid it makes you look. You have given away the opportunity to be the bigger person. ANGER; everyone else wins but you, in the game of anger. Everlasting resentment and furry.
Anger is a very powerful tool so much so that it can affect our decisions, ruin our relationships and even ruin our health. Sadly, the power of anger is being underrated and we’re sometimes led to think that staying angry at someone affects them. Anger issues can also cause problems in your life that are not so easy to spot right away. If you frequently get angry and do nothing about it or negatively act upon the anger, you’re causing undue harm to yourself than others emotionally, physically, socially and spiritually.
When anger becomes a prevalent emotion in your life and not dealt with, it puts a strain on your social life. It creates a huge divide in our relationships. Instead of meaningfully working through the problem to maintain good friendships, angry people choose to live a lonely isolated life in a bid to avoid more people from hurting them. You suffer with dealing with little situations in your life and this can negatively affect your work, studies and other extra curricular activities. Therefore, it becomes very hard for you to focus on tasks and accomplish projects since its very difficult for you to work with people. Social activities become a bore since you try as much as possible to avoid human interactions.
Emotionally, anger causes feelings such as remorse, guilt and shame. When we harbour anger and hold on to grudges, it can lead to very adverse activities such as insulting, cursing and even murder. In the Bible,we realise that Jezebel’s anger led to jealousy which led to the murder of Naboth. These actions when carried out creates an emotional turmoil of guilt, shame and regret. When the angry woman is not able to cope with these situations, she can become mentally deranged or even suicidal. Undoubtedly, depression starts to set in. Your anger can also end you behind bars! In the long run, we realise that we pay for being excessively angry and not dealing with it or asking God to help us deal with it.
Anger can also affect the physical wellbeing of the individual. Some health effects of anger include headaches, digestive problems, insomnia, high blood pressure and heart attacks and heart aches. Anger also elevates our cortisol levels and may lead to grinding of teeth(bruxism) and depression. Excessive anger issues and refusing to let go of things and people that hurt us could further aggravate existing health conditions. Simply put, your anger could be the death of you, literally and figuratively.
“Settle matters quickly with your adversary who is taking you to court. Do it while you’re still with him on the way or he may hand you over to the judge…I tell you the truth you will not be free until you’ve paid the last penny”.
The quoted verse from Matthew 5:25 proves that anger leads to expensive lawsuits. Anger easily leads to hostility which in turn leads to expensive lawsuits and stressful situations which could have been avoided. Imagine paying expensive lawyers to take sides with you and attending those long and stressful court sessions over an issue which could be handled by easily talking over matters.
Anger is unacceptable before God.
“my dear brothers, take note of this: everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to anger, for mans anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires”. James 1:19-20.
When we hold on to anger, God is not pleased with us because its not in line with the righteous life he has designed for us as his children.
Finally anger causes an unforgiving behaviour therefore seperating us from the Father .
” Therefore if you’re offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave the gift in front of the altar, first go and be reconciled to your brother and offer the gift”. Matthew 5:23.
From the passage we can conclude that unless we’re reconciled with someone who has caused us pain, we can’t offer our gifts to God, there fore we can’t please Him. Forgiveness is key to everything we try to accomplish as women of God.
Would you rather be that angry, seething resentful woman with strained relationships with others and God, or you’ll be the peace loving woman after Gods heart who has so much love to give and so many lives to positively impact. Settling on the latter means that you’re ready to let go of your anger, be forgiving and ask that the love and peace of God overflows abundantly in your heart.
And from a sister who has been at both ends of the extremes, I urge you to choose the latter.