Hurt but not Held Back II

In our previous post on the topic “hurt but not held back”   we concluded that as Christian women, hurt, pain and rejection are inevitable however we have the ultimate power to determine how they make or unmake us. We further established that to deal with hurt,pain and rejection, we need to first of all accept what has happened, and clear our Atmosphere.


Today we continue our discussion on how not to be held back even when you’ve been hurt. Let’s get right to it Phenomenal Woman…


3. Have a positive mind set and attitude:

Search through your mind, rid it of all the cobwebs before they further imprison you. The mind in its own way can make a heaven of hell or a hell of heaven. Why do you brood of the love you lost long ago? Will that memory help put money in your pocket this month?
Why do you still grieve over your failures as though you’re the first to ever commit them? Will the tears cause your skill to be any better?
Why do you still sleep and waste dreams on the person who hurt you? Will the thought of cold-hearted revenge cause you to sleep better at night?


Why? Why oh ye daughter of Zion have you allowed such filth and clutter to gather in the attic of your mind, hardly making room for any positive vibes?

Legend has it that when you commit to memory the hurt, pain and rejection you have suffered, you re-live the same experience over and over, every time you remember.

Know this, that the ability to forget is a virtue, not a vice; a blessing in disguise.

Forget what is gone and let God concern himself with the future. He is far more capable than you, remember this.

4. Know that you are not alone: let me take you church alright? Hallelujah!

Luke 24 [RSV]

[vs: 13] That very day two of them were going to a village named Emma′us, about seven miles from Jerusalem,

[vs: 14] and talking with each other about all these things that had happened.

[vs: 15] While they were talking and discussing together, Jesus himself drew near and went with them.

[vs: 16] But their eyes were kept from recognizing him.

[vs: 28] So they drew near to the village to which they were going. He appeared to be going further,

[vs: 29] but they constrained him, saying, “Stay with us, for it is toward evening and the day is now far spent.” So he went in to stay with them.

[vs: 30] When he was at table with them, he took the bread and blessed, and broke it, and gave it to them.

[vs: 31] And their eyes were opened and they recognized him; and he vanished out of their sight.

[vs: 32] They said to each other, “Did not our hearts burn within us while he talked to us on the road, while he opened to us the scriptures?”


I needed to put this long text out here… Know that God is with you every tiny step of the way. When you tipped on that stone, when you nearly fell into the gutter, when your car broke down in the middle of the road.

These two young men walked a whole journey with Jesus Christ without realising that it was Him. They were focused on their journey and the conversation they were having rather than any other thing. Their eyes were fixed on getting to their destination.

I know it sounds cliché to say that sister, God is with you. We have often interpreted that to mean, God is waiting for me at some point, so I have to do well by myself to get to that point. (God help me to preach this).

Many times we are too focused on our problems, issues, hurt and pain that we miss the God factor in it all. We are completely immersed in our mess that we miss the presence of God. We are too consumed with ourselves that we forget that in the midst of the uproar, He is there.

The disciples in the boat where comfortable and fearless as long as they kept their eyes fixed on Jesus. Immediately the focus shifted and they forgot Jesus was there, when the storm came, they were scared!

When Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego walked through the fiery furnace, God didn’t just protect them from the outside. I mean He is God, He could have quenched that fire with just a drop of rain but He got in that furnace with them and walked beside them every step of the way until they came out of the fire. (Daniel 3:25)

When we walk through the fires of life, we must have confidence that no matter what we are experiencing, our God is walking right beside us, never leaving or forsaking us.

Fiery trials in life are inevitable. The Bible tells us to not be surprised when they come our way but, instead, rejoice when we experience them because those trials make us more like Christ.

In order for restoration to truly occur in our hearts, souls, and lives, we have to take our eyes off the hurt and instead focus on the cross. Jesus can heal the heart that people broke. He alone can exchange the pain for peace, hurt for healing, and rejection for redemption. There is no heart so broken that Jesus cannot fix it. There is no life so shattered that He cannot restore it. There is no pain too great that He cannot turn into joy.

You may have experienced great hurt, but from this moment forward don’t glorify the pain. Instead, magnify the Saviour.

If we have allowed past hurts, pain and rejection to permeate our lives and leave us smelling like smoke, we have now been empowered to no longer be held back by them. We can also be assured that we will never have to go through the fire alone.


Love; Nelia.phenomenalwoman


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