Just Do It!

In my line of work with regards to women, one thing I have realised is that there is a missing link between ideas and execution. That missing link is risk.

For us Christian women, it’s as if we are waiting for the rapture to happen where we will all be caught up mid-air with the saviour.

Living our lives in earnest expectation of our Saviour is key, however, we must not lose sight of our purpose here on earth. Yes indeed God created us to worship Him, first and foremost. However, God wants us to prosper. He said you will see the Goodness of the Lord in the land of the living ( let me end here before I preach a sermon)😁😏

We have been conditioned to have it all figured out before we take any chance. Women have ideas worth more than we know or could ever imagine.

But before we set out on the boat, we always want to know where the ocean ends..How possible?

I love the story of Moana very much(A Disney animated movie). A teenage girl who set out to save her people without knowing how to mann a canoe, boat or ship. She placed herself in the position where she either had to learn to sail or sink.. and once you’ve gotten to the point where you have no option but to do it, you would just do it, and you’ll realise, that you were made for more.

You would never grow until you leave your comfort zone and the only way to leave your comfort zone is to be in an uncomfortable place which requires you to push more.. to pursue more…. relentlessly..

You can only learn how to cook by actually cooking, you can only learn how to drive by actually driving, you can only be a business woman by starting a business, you can only be a scholar by pursuing education, you can only be something by doing..

You just want to do something, but sometimes the public opinion and your own self doubt prevents you from taking the risk.

Actually sometimes people believe in you than you believe in yourself.. so sometimes it’s just you, your self doubt, and fear of failure. Perhaps your hindrance is the other person you see when you look into the mirror…

Life is a risk. What more can you lose? Your mere existence as a person is a risk. What more is there to lose by taking a few more risks to venture into other things. But you never know what more there is to gain of you do not take the risk..

You will not have it all figured out. In fact you cannot have it all figured out. Yes you ought to plan and be strategic, then sit back and watch everything play out. Then you can fix this, fix that… adjust this, take this out at the end of which you would now be able to achieve what you perceived.

Just as a foetus is formed one part at a time, so is it with life and everything it comes with. That is the reason for which children are named after they have been born not when the mother and father conceived.

That idea you have is just like a foetus. It’s totally okay if you’re not able to figure it all out yet. Just do it, one part at a time and see it all come together beautifully….

Just do it…

xoxo
Nelia

Pull-thread FEMINISM!

Pull- Thread Feminism; My new reality, The Future I want

Look up the definition of “Feminism” in the dictionary and you’ll find one or more of these definitions. Feminism is:
A. The advocacy of women’s rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes
B. The theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes
C. The belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities
D. The doctrine of advocating social, political, and all other rights of women equal to those of men.

Feminism at its core is about equality of men and women, not “sameness.” A lot are those who argue that women are not the “same” as men so therefore equality is a myth. The heart of the misunderstanding seems to be a misconception of what the word equality means. Many are guilty for using equality and sameness as synonyms. The two words have been used interchangeably.

Sameness presupposes that there exists no differences between men and women. Equality on the other hand acknowledges the difference between sexes, but does not support the biological differentiation as a basis for subjection or subjugation.

It’s critical to understand that “same” does not mean “equal.” The issue here is about equal rights and equal access to opportunities. Men and women don’t have to be the “same” to have the right to equality.

I tend to agree with Kathy Capricon in her article “What Is Feminism,And Why Many Women And Men Hate It?” From her analysis from data compiled from around the world on gender equality including news and engagement on social media activity, the following was and is abundantly clear – there is a tremendous dissent and vehement disagreement today among people around the world about the status and importance of equality. It can be seen and noted as :
• There are millions of people who both inwardly and outwardly do not support the idea that there should be equal rights and equal opportunities for men and women
• There are also thousands of people who believe we’re not at all there yet, and support continuing efforts to pave the way for equal rights for men and women.
• There are thousands who believe in equal rights but find “feminism” a word and a movement that doesn’t align with their personal beliefs or values
• Finally, both conscious and unconscious gender bias is rampant within us, but most of us aren’t aware of it. ( Or even admit that it is a problem that has to be tackled)
Analyisng Why so many hate the term feminism and the feminist movement, here are some feedbacks:
• Feminism has been associated with strong, forceful and angry women, and our society continues to punish forceful women. (So much recent data and research has proved this).
• Many people fear that feminism will mean that men will eventually lose out – of power, influence, impact, authority, and control, and economic opportunities.
• Many people believe that feminists want to control the world and put men down.
• Many people fear that feminism will overturn time-honored traditions, religious beliefs and established gender roles, and that feels scary and wrong.
• Many people fear that feminism will bring about negative shifts in relationships, marriage, society, culture, power and authority dynamics, and in business, job and economic opportunities if and when women are on an equal footing with men.
These actions and attitudes, ideas and resentments can so well be seen in Ghana when the issue of Feminism is brought up or someone boldly claims the feminist tag.

So, what would be helpful in this dialogue, or in this situation we find ourselves in today where there is a great divide among men and women, and among the people of our country who see things dramatically differently from each other?

Pull-Thread feminism

Recently I went for a two days seminar organized by The Fabulous Woman network in collaboration with the US Embassy in Ghana where Dr. Avis A. Jones-Deweever, PHD in the course of her lecture mentioned Pull Thread Mentorship. Simply put, this is a form of strategy where by instead on finding mentors or people to help you by pushing you up to succeed, you rather find the pacesetters, those already in the field you want to enter and have chalked considerable successes to tell, so they hold your hand and pull you along. It is like the ”rabbit “ in a Barton race. The one with the most speed begins the race to set the pace and tone of the race.

Just then the scales fell off eyes. Right there in the room were over 70 young vibrant women who are managers, CEOs, wives, parents who were shining in their corners. Great women who all have a story to tell and can be a mentor to others coming.
Yes we have been speaking about Feminism…
Yes we have been empowering young girls to aspire to be great…
Yes we have been narrating the issues that makes women weak, that makes people know and understand women are not treated equally in many places …
Yes we have only concentrated on the Push Thread Feminism
What if, we will start seeing Feminism in a new light, and concentrate on making our girls and boys better?

What if we will start using what I call the “Pull Thread feminism” and start empowering our girls and boys by finding those who have already made it; great women and men to mentor the younger ones to be better.
For the girls to believe in themselves, to know and understand they are worthy enough to attain any height they dream off. That they are not the same as men but have equal rights. That nothing will be handed to them because they are women; they need to work hard to gain it.
For the men to understand they can be great Dads, brothers ,friends and colleagues as well as husbands and that even though they are not the same as women. They all have equal rights
I believe a lot will change.
Empowerment is not about inciting women against men neither should equality be at the neglect of any one, regardless of Gender.

My name is Maame Boakyewaa Kokuro (Naomi) and from today I promise to redirect my energy from Push Thread Feminism (Using all the force to try and get the change with women empowerment). I will adopt Pull Thread Feminism (Find others who have survived no matter what, to pull the young ones along).

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Mirror, REFLECTING MY WORTH

 

MIRROR , REFLECTING MY WORTH 

On the 17th of January 2018
The Phenomenal Woman Blog and Network had their maiden edition of breakfast meetings.
The venue was the Paloma Hotel at Ring Road.
It was an amazing experience. We had five amazing speakers.

Nelia Gyemfi set the ball rolling by touching on the vision, mission and motto of Phenomenal Woman.
She made an endearing point on how needless it is for the woman to fight for the position of man or to be seen as equal when our position and purpose is far from that.


Next to speak was Mrs Jacqui Oyimer, who before the end of the meeting was tagged “Osofo Maame”.
She shared some life experiences and left us with the need to find our purpose in God by building a relationship with him, networking and drawing smart goals. She said to be “INTENTIONAL” with the things we do.

 


Then we made to do a reality check with an analogy of bananas versus chocolates thanks to Ms Josephine Ameyaw. She entreated us to live a life that would allow us to save comfortably. She said in her words “ if living within your means won’t allow you to save, live below your means and make the conscious effort to save”.
She touched on the importance and need of being financially independent and left us with so many tips.


Miranisa Wallace Ollenu pushed us to approach anything and everything we want to do with confidence . She said “Never be afraid to start a business, her personal motto for 2018 being multiple streams of income.
😂All for the bougie life she said.

 


The Last but not least speaker was …..
Our afrocentric fashionista who gave us a fast schooling on what a style, design and trend is. She also gave some fashion tips, using articles from her clothing line.

 


Thanks to our Master of Ceremonies for the event Ms Genevieve Agbo, we came to an awareness of how in just that foursquare hall, great phenomenal women from different parts of Ghana had convened during a knowing me knowing you segment.


Contacts and bookings were placed amongst the women by the end of the meeting.
Amidst good food, laughter, learning , motivation and amazing women was the never forgettable presence of the Lord who made it possible.
Matt 18:20 For where two or three are come together in my name, there am I among them.

 

Love, Nelia.phenomenalwoman

FAQ’S

FAQ’s about THE PHENOMENAL WOMAN BLOG AND NETWORK.

1. What is the Phenomenal Woman Blog and Network all about?

A capable, intelligent and virtuous woman-who is he who can find her? She is far more precious than jewels and her value is
far above rubies or pearls.
Proverbs 31:10 (AMP)
We at the Phenomenal Woman Blog and Network believe in one core and fundamental basic truth, that the woman should be and can be who and what God originally created her to be. In other words, the woman should, can and must fulfil the purpose for which God decided to form her, from ADAM’S RIB.
Not from his foot to be belittled neither from his skull to be above him but his rib to be one with him(NOT EQUAL), to complement him.

2. What are your core values?

In a phrase, our core value is to “be far above rubies”. That is how priceless and unique we are. Breaking this further down, we believe that
***Our identity as women is not based on what the world thinks, neither is it the clothes we wear, our identity is found in Christ.
***We believe we are capable of fulfilling whatever purpose God has called us into.
***That we’re intelligent to realise our purpose individually and collectively and to harness every God given potential to its apex.

3. What do you seek to achieve at the end of the day?

What we seek to achieve, at the end of the day, is a generation of mighty women, who know their place, power, strengths and potentials through the lens and full knowledge of Christ Jesus. A generation of women who do not need to be “men” to be given some opportunities in life or to take certain risks in life.

4. How does one become a member?

We’re frantically working on being a full blown network where the success of one woman is not an intimidating tool for the rest, but is the stepping stone for the success of one more woman, then the next, then the next. In the meantime you can send us an email Phenomenal@rubiesworth.com with your profile and what you’d like to bring on board the Phenomenal Woman movement. Make sure your profile, cv and a captivating short essay as to why you are Phenomenal are included.Yes, at the moment it is just social media oriented.
You may also follow us on the following social media handles as well.
Facebook: THE PHENOMENAL WOMAN
TWITTER: @rubiesworth
Web: www.rubiesworth.com

5. Are you feminists?

Depends on which angle you look at it from. We don’t share the opinion that “whatever a man can do, a woman can do better”! We believe that the woman was created after God had made Adam. This could only be for one reason, to do every and any other thing Adam couldn’t do. If God’s purpose for creating Eve was to do everything that Adam could already do, he would have made STEVE NOT EVE!

We don’t support the men and women are equal theory. We believe that we’re different, in whichever way you look at it except we’re both humans and children of God. However, we don’t accept that our difference should be a reason for anything. For instance, women should be given the opportunity to be in certain positions not because of Gender, but because we’re capable.

Our generation is becoming too busy trying to establish a baseless argument that women were made to be like men. Women have felt devalued and powerless, causing them to embrace the modern day fallacy that they must operate by male standards in order to gain reputation in today’s world.
As result of this ‘identity crisis’ women are loosing their uniqueness. The today’s woman is any other person than herself, jeopardising the very reason for her existence as a result of personal abuse and underutilised potentials.

To be or not to be.
We are more of who God has called us to be and yearning to be fruitful all round
We do not seek to take the position of the man, but rather accord the respect and honour he deserves as who God made him.
So are we feminists; maybe. But what I know for sure is that we are PHENOMENAL!

6. The 21st century woman has it all figured out so why the need for such a movement?

The 21st century woman doesn’t have it all figured out. From the time that history was first written down till date, women have literally had to fight for recognition even as a human being not a chattel or the like. That may not be the situation in this era as much has been done. However, there’s still work to be done. The 21st century woman can be described as a vine with branches stretching as far out but unfortunately lacking fruits.
Women are busy losing what is theirs and chasing after what is not. And even if you get what you were chasing after, and lost what you had, you haven’t figured it out, especially as a daughter of Zion. We seek to take this generation of women and those after back to the Glory we fell short off and this time, produce abiding fruits.

love; Nelia.phenomenalwoman. 

If you have any further questions that weren’t addressed in this post, kindly send us an email at Phenomenal@rubiesworth.com or via any of our social media handles♡♡♡♡♡

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Interview- Excellencial.

MISS EXCELLENCIAL BETTY BOATEMAA.

With the spate of unemployment, especially for young university graduates in our country, it takes bravery, innovation and positivity to decide to be an entrepreneur. Finding an opportunity in what seems to be a competitive world is worth celebrating. Today, our guest,  a twenty four year old graduate of KNUST decision against all odds to stand a business; a unique and pretty interesting one at that. Ladies and Gentlemen, meet EXCELLENCIAL BETTY BOATEMAA.

Nelia: Hi Betty, kindly  tell us about yourself and your business most especially.
Betty: Having started Excel Sobolo while at the University, I gained experience in marketing as the General Manager. I had the opportunity to improve my communication skills, interpersonal skills and decision making skills. Juggling academic work and business at school produced effective time management skills in me. The joy of starting an initiative and working towards its success continued after University. Currently I am the Founder of Kubenut. Kubenut is a partnership type of business which is responsible for production of packaged tender coconut water and the coconut pulp. Kubenut aims to deliver nutritious, thirst quenching, refreshing, energizing and high quality tender coconut water and its pulp to its customers. Kubenut places a great deal is on safety, hygienic, healthy and attractive packaging. Customer satisfaction is our hallmark. It is a part time work at the moment and wish to expand it in future. I have a goal of reading International Business Management as my second degree programme to boost my business development and management skills. In future, I want to be Business Developer and Marketing Manager for a global brand company in the industry of food and beverages.

 

Nelia: Goals! You will surely achieve what you’ve set out to achieve. How growing up like for you?

 

Betty:  Growing up having a teacher as a mother, you got to learn hard and excel. My childhood was more about books. So I guess my childhood was pretty normal then.
Nelia: What motivates you in life.
Betty: Successful stories of people who have made it in life. People who have made in against all of life’s circumstances. I feel like I have no excuse to fail at all.
Nelia: Any particular unfortunate experiences that you’ve encountered in life? (Any story you can share that will inspire and encourage someone reading it.)
Betty: I didn’t grow up to see a male figure in my house, my mother has played both roles and she is a fighter. She is now on pension but was a Diploma Teacher. By grace, she has seen all of us through the university. I am the last born. It hasn’t been easy financially, but God has been good. She is my number one role model.
Nelia:I’m sorry about not having a male figure in your life. But all things work together for our good. How did you rise above it?

 

Betty: The excellence mindset.

Nelia: The excellence spirit indeed. I’m pretty convinced this is what incited you to start your own business right after leaving school. As a startup entrepreneur, what influenced your decision to start KUBENUT?


Betty: The fact that any fruit can be taken in the office except coconut because of the nature of the fruit. So then I figured if it cold be packaged neatly and made convenient, people, especially  those in the corporate sector will patronise it.
Nelia: Exactly. Find a problem in society, find a way to fix it. People will pay for it.  Howbeit I suppose it hasn’t been a smooth ride. What are some of the risks you had to take as a startup? What has kept you going?

 

 

Betty: Financial risks and what keeps me going is knowing that a customer is satisfied with your product and services. It gives you some unexplainable joy.
Nelia: Where do you envision KUBENUT to be in the next 5 years?
Betty: In 5 years’ time, I see Kubenut obtain Food and Drugs Authorization number, have had more hands on board and have captured the whole of Greater Accra and another region.
Nelia: How would you define success?
Betty: Having positive influence and impact on your society.

 

Nelia: Growing up, who’s been your mentor and why?
Betty: Joyce Meyer. She had fought the good fight of faith and she is where she is now.
Nelia: If you were a book, what would be your title and why?
Betty: How Grace Works. Because my life is grace influenced.
Nelia:  We all are indeed grace bound! If you were a colour, which one would you be and why?

 

Betty: Red, signifying the blood of Jesus, so precious to me.
Nelia: THE BLOOD! What does it mean to be a Phenomenal Woman for you?
Betty: A Phenomenal Woman is a woman who is influencing her society positive and having impact on them.
Nelia: Finally, an advice to your fellow sisters out there.
Betty: Seeth thou a man diligent in his ways, he shall stand before kings. Be diligent in what you do, you will be at the top.

 

 

Nelia: See you at the top darling. Thank you!

 

This interview was made possible by Arbie Marfoa Marfo, Team Member of the Phenomenal Woman Blog and a great friend of Miss Betty.

Don’t forget to let me know you passed by!

Love, Nelia.phenomenalwoman 

What does the bible say 2.

 

Luke 6:41-42 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but perceivest not the beam that is in thine own eye?
Either how canst thou say to thy brother, Brother, let me pull out the mote that is in thine eye, when thou thyself beholdest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Thou hypocrite, cast out first the beam out of thine own eye, and then shalt thou see clearly to pull out the mote that is in thy brother’s eye.

The Good News version puts it this way;

why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye but pay no attention to the log in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, please brother, let me take that speck out of your own eye? You hypocrite! First take the log out of your own eye, and then you will be able to see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.

Let’s take an English lesson. A speck is a small tiny almost inconspicuous spot or blemish. A mote is synonymous to a speck. A log on the other hand is a large branch of a tree or a chunk of wood. Similarly, a beam is synonymous to a log.
Let’s dissect this verse into two parts so we are able to analyse it well.

And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but perceivest not the beam that is in thine own eye?
Either how canst thou say to thy brother, Brother, let me pull out the mote that is in thine eye, when thou thyself beholdest not the beam that is in thine own eye?

The mote and beam represents our errs and flaws as humans. Everyone of us has got “but” to our attitude or our being, that is why we can only be perfect through Christ and not of our own self righteousness.

As humans we are tempted to point fingers at others, we say that person is like that but I’m not. Yes it’s true, but there’s also a great side of the person you lack.
In law, crimes have been graded. The minor crimes are called summary offences. The serious crimes are called indictable offence. However, in the annals of HEAVEN and the bible, sin is sin.
This verse particularly admonishes us not to do two things.

  • First is not to judge. Bible says judge not so that ye will not be judged. If you don’t remove the log or beam in your eye, then you are in no standing to say brother there’s a tiny little spot or blemish in your eye, let me help you with it. How ridiculous. Prune yourself, put yourself in order and in decency. But then the question comes, at what point will I be able to say to my neighbour you have a speck in your eye? The answer is this, do not judge, but give corrections, and constructive ones. Secondly, accept your own faults when they are pointed out to you!(difficult huh! I know)
  • The second part of the verse is my favourite. It says;

Thou hypocrite, cast out first the beam out of thine own eye, and then shalt thou see clearly to pull out the mote that is in thy brother’s eye.

You’re a hypocrite because you have not loved yourself enough, to accept your flaws and errs, how then can you correct your neighbour in love. You’re pretending to be something you’re not. You’re appearing as if you have no faults to deal with. There are some unbelievers, who are more loving and receptive towards one another than church folks. Some believers make you feel like God is a disciplinarian. No! Well I don’t know about you, but my God is love, and the Holy Spirit convicts and corrects.
This is how we have to live with one another. But then this can only be achieved if we love ourselves enough to accept that we all have logs in our eyes and our neighbours have specks. We will be steady to judge and criticise because you’ll be conscious of the fact that I need to help that brother or sister not draw them away!
After we are able to do this, then there is no hypocrisy in our corrections. We all are victims of this verse. We think we are so flawless and fault free. This body we have is sin on it’s own. That is why being a child of God is not by DNA. You have to make that individual decision to follow Christ. When people say “oh but that’s a preachers kid”, I laugh. A preacher’s kid was equally born into sin, and they have to work out their own salvation with fear and trembling, which leads to my third point for this piece!

Philippians 2:12 Wherefore, my beloved, as ye have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling.

Evangelism is our first and greatest commandment as Children of light. Bible says go ye into all the world and preach the Gospel to every creature! Evangelism is the core of our faith. But it is almost impossible to fulfill this commandment without your own salvation being secured. Yes we are to propagate the Kingdom of light, but you can’t do this if you aren’t a child of this Kingdom. You cannot preach salvation if you yourself haven’t been saved; love yourself, and love your neighbour as thyself.

Love, Nelia.phenomenalwoman

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How to Enjoy Valentines Day Alone

Enjoy!!!

Happy Vals day in advance

I love love love you all

❤❤❤❤❤❤

Nelia Gyemfi.

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For amazing and interesting videos…. she sends her love 

3 Truths of Success – Myles Munroe

So I chanced upon this video and I hope it teaches you some very basic principles of success and what it actually means to be successful.
Yours truly,

Nelia Gyemfi….xxx